Childhood’s Secrets: Intimacy, Privacy, and the Self Reconsidered

Max van Manen and Bas Levering

Available in: English, Dutch, Brazil, Portuguese, Spanish, German

Contents

Chapter One

  • 8 Introduction
  • 8 Stories of Secrecy
  • 14 Peek-a-boo and Hide'n Seek
  • 15 Can You Keep a Secret?

Chapter Two

  • 24 Modes of Secrecy
  • 25 Existential Secrecy
  • 26 Communicative Secrecy
  • 27 Personal Secrecy
  • 31 Language and Secrecy Experience

Chapter Three

  • 40 How Do We Experience Secrecy?
  • 40 Hideouts and Passage Ways
  • 44 The Secret Place to Withdraw
  • 49 Secret Compartments, Drawers and Boxes
  • 52 Wardrobes and Closet Spaces
  • 54 Secret Manifestations and Imaginations
  • 57 The Adventure of Secret Play Space

Chapter Four

  • 66 Secrecy in Fiction
  • 69 The Second Self
  • 73 The Intimate Self
  • 78 The Haunted Self
  • 83 The Illicit Self
  • 88 The Dark Self
  • 89 The Orphaned Self

Chapter Five

  • 98 Where do Secrecy and Privacy Come From?
  • 98 Must One Always Be Open and Truthful?
  • 99 What Does it Mean to Be Reserved?
  • 102 What Calls for Privacy?
  • 107 What Calls for Secrecy?

Chapter Six

  • 114 Differences between Secrecy and Privacy
  • 114 The Intimacy Factor
  • 120 The Content Factor
  • 123 The Language Factor
  • 125 The Moral Factor
  • 126 Conclusion
  • 127 Why Do We Value Secrecy and Privacy?

Chapter Seven

  • 136The Physiognomy of Secrecy
  • 136 The Transparent Body
  • 138 Feeling Excluded
  • 140 Snubbing and Difference
  • 141 Cultural Codes
  • 141 The Glance
  • 143 The Wink
  • 144 The Secret Smile
  • 145 The Smirk
  • 146 The Enigmatic Image
  • 148 The Mask
  • 149 The Sudden Silence
  • 150 Learning Psysiognomy

Chapter Eight

  • Secrecy and the Origin of Identity 154
  • Self and Other 155
  • Body and Self 160
  • Pre-identity and Self-differentiation 163
  • Identity and Inner Self 168
  • Is Secrecy Possible? The Psychological Question 172
  • Is Secrecy Possible? The Philosophical Question 174

Chapter Nine

  • 183 The Development of Inwardness
  • 183 Cognitive Development of Secrecy
  • 188 Secrecy as Inner-Space
  • 192 Cultural Development of Inwardness
  • 198 Inwardness and the Path of Confession

Chapter Ten

  • 207 Secrecy and Postmodern Culture
  • 208 The Postmodern Self
  • 212 The Plural Self
  • 213 Lost Inwardness?

Chapter Eleven

  • 216 Lying and Secrecy
  • 216 Learning to Hide
  • 219 Lying Language
  • 221 The Morality of the Child's Secret as Lie
  • 224 The Skill of Lying
  • 229 Gossip

Chapter Twelve

  • 234 The Childhood of Secrecy
  • 236 The Secrecy of Childhood
  • 239 Childhood Secrecy as a Function of Adult Culture

Chapter Thirteen

  • 242 Guilt, Shame and Embarrassment
  • 242 Exposing Secrets in front of Others
  • 243 Exposure of Debt: Guilt
  • 246 Exposure of Fault: Shame
  • 248 Exposure of Innocence: Embarrassment

Chapter Fourteen

  • 253 The Pedagogy of Secrecy
  • 254 The Need for Supervision and Privacy
  • 259 Institutional Relations and Pedagogical Attentiveness
  • 263 Supervision and Lack of Privacy
  • 269 Supervision in the Classroom
  • 275 Supervision as Genuine Interest in the other Person
  • 279 Life's Secrets
  • 286 Who Am I?

Chapter Fifteen

  • 291 Conclusion
  • 300 Bibliography